Having a new baby can really take a toll on your relationship. No sleep, a screaming baby and a recovering mum, it can be extremely difficult. I have always wondered what people did to make sure they kept their spark there.
So i reached out to some parent bloggers who gave me their tips and hints on how to keep your relation alive. I will be leaving their links as well so make sure you go check them out!
She says! “Talk to each other!”
Vikki from Family With Ellie suggested
To accept help where you can ( from people you trust, of course) to give you time as a couple. Don’t feel you need to dress up and go out during these times ( unless you have the energy and want to!) just cooking a nice meal together, cuddling on the sofa and watching a nice film. Quality time is a tonic. Be aware of each other’s feelings and try to boost each other through the tough / tired days.
Hannah from The Amphletts says
Remember the tough times aren’t forever, having a new baby is a huge adjustment, combined with a lack of sleep the angry words, bickering & resentment are just symptoms until you get a better grasp of parenting! Remember why you decided to start a family, try & catch a few moments together when you can & the little things like a cup of coffee in bed or remembering to ask how their day was goes a long way!
Beth from Twinderelmo makes a very good suggestion!
Spend time NOT talking about the kids!
We also like to find a good box set we love and try to binge on it together when the kids are in bed/napping. It’s nice to have something to look forward to in the evenings – half hour episode ones are the best as baby will probably let you manage one!
Trying to find the time for your partner is going to be very hard for a few weeks, or even months. You now have a small human being who will need you with them 24/7. It can be hard to find the time to even have an adult conversation other than “I think we have seen this peppa pig episode 12 times today” and even when you DO have the time, your too exhausted.
Always try to fit in time with your loved one, its important and can save your relationship. Talk, Listen and Love.
Thanks for reading x
Mwah, Becca x