On the 9th of June, I will be having a half head shave, and Michael will be having his back waxed for #GoBaldForBabyLoss.
The #GoBaldForBabyLoss event was set up by Emileen Clapp who lost her baby girl Nayely Adelpha Clapp. With a grieving heart, this amazing mother has set out on a journey to help support and raise money for families who have lost their own little ones.
I have admired Emileen and her partner Nathan’s bravery to set up all this fundraising and awareness whist grieving.
Here is some words from Emileen herself:
Having suffered poor mental health following the birth of our first child together we took our time before trying for our next baby, we finally felt the time was right and we’re over the moon when we got a positive test. We couldn’t believe our luck – another beautiful baby, the kids were so excited too! On December 13th we attended a routine mental health appointment at the antenatal clinic, they offered us an early listen to the baby’s heartbeat, we of course jumped at the chance. We went into a side room where they attempted to find the heartbeat but were unable to pin it down (due to the baby being so small they thought) so they let us have a scan. An extra look at our bundle – that was more than we bargained for! And that’s when she told us, those words will forever ring in my head – “I’m sorry, it’s bad news today, there’s no heartbeat” I couldn’t believe what I’d heard, I smiled at her, I must have miss heard her. But then it hit me, this was real – our beautiful baby girl was gone. We came home that night to watch Londyn’s Christmas choir performance and then when we got home we sat her down to tell her what had happened, this was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life, the gut wrenching screams as she sobbed in my arms begging me to tell her it wasn’t true (another thing that will forever ring in my head) we went back into hospital the following week 19th of December to deliver the baby. After 9 long hours in labour with no pain relief and haemorrhaging which resulted in losing 1.5 liters of blood our baby girl was born, perfect and beautiful but completely lifeless. The hospital were amazing in the way they looked after us all, the respect and dignity with which they treated our baby was second to none and for that we will be forever grateful. During our stay in hospital we were provided with memory boxes for our other daughters as well as one for us loads of little trinkets to build as memories as possible. None of this would have been possible without the donations made by baby loss charities, the fundraising for the Rowan suite provided us with a little bubble to live in with our baby girl even if it was for just a short time. The day after Nayely was born Londyn came to meet her sister and say goodbye and whilst she was there the hospital arranged for the Chaplin to come and do a blessing. After Londyn had left they discussed the options for her funeral, we decided we would have her cremated so we can bring her home and the hospital took care of everything at no cost to us. Losing a child is the worst thing any parent can ever go through and nothing in the world can make it ok but thanks to some wonderful organisations it was made just a little bit less awful. We decided we wanted to do something to mark our daughters due month, we also wanted to give something back to everyone who has helped us so we decided to do a fundraiser in her memory and we will be donating the money raised to various charities. The main charities we will be donating to are, little daffodils and single yellow rose, two local charities set up by bereaved parents to help siblings through this awful experience. Love musgrove, to be split between the Rowan suite and the chapel and a charity called Tommy’s who fund research to try and prevent miscarriage, neonatal death and sudden infant death whilst also offering support to those who have suffered. The event is called go bald for baby loss and will be largely based around head shaving and body waxing although there will be lots of other things happening on the day including glitter tattoos, face painting, raffles and tombolas to name but a few. This will be taking place in the ballroom of the phoenix hotel, chard on Sunday 9th June and is open to everyone. Please come along and show your support, many thanks in advance.
You can find more out about their story here: Chard & Ilminster News.
Emileen has set up a Go Fund Me account to raise money to donate towards charities that help and support families also. If you would like to help donate, share or sponsor Michael & I in our #GoBaldForBabyLoss then please follow the link below! It would be gratefully appreciated!
Until next time,